Surrendering to Love
Love is an amazing energy. It is something that is felt through emotions and exists in everything and is everywhere around us. Love is the food for the soul. It is the most important ingredient to life itself, and without it we can’t survive. Our children are drawn towards love, they thrive on it and need love to grow. There is no one aspect to our lives that doesn’t involve love, even in the darkest of experiences. You can find love in abundance if you choose to open your heart and feel it.
The truth is that we, as children, experience love within the environment with whom we live. Through this experience it influences:
- the world around us
- our actions and behaviours
- our emotions our thoughts
- our relationships with friends, family and animals, including the closest of those whom we become most deeply intimate with.
Many have experienced a lack of love from a young age from parents who did not show their love for us, or themselves for that matter. You can be assured that we have inherited this force from the environment from which they came which, in turn, was inherited from their parents, and so on.
This lack of love we have inherited has, in many ways, conditioned us to re-create these same experiences in our relationships, like gravity or magnetism. It is not until we recognise these repeated cycles that we realise that something is not right, or is missing in our lives which is yet to be addressed. And if we do not find the courage to look within and resolve this, we will find ourselves repeating the same experience over and over again until we make the decision to change our beliefs and break the cycle.
The Fear of Losing Someone
The fear of loss of love is overwhelming, especially if you are not consciously aware of the inherited influences that cause the loss in the first place. If we clearly knew what the problem was, we could fix it, right? Well, it may be easier said than done, since we are more likely to blame the other person rather than taking responsibility for what we have created for ourselves unintentionally, or perhaps, in some cases, intentionally.
When you have felt suppression and dominance in a relationship, your ability to trust has gone, and your ability to feel that others will treat you with respect and equality becomes seriously diminished. It becomes harder to believe there is anyone out there who can really love and accept you for who you are. You hide your authenticity, instead presenting to the world what you think others will accept. You lose your voice and can even create behaviours that will stop others from getting to know the real you.
In our minds, we create the same scenarios and feel the same painful emotions we felt in our previous relationships. The next unsuspecting new love in our life has no idea what they are up against, until the mask we have been wearing to cover up our hurts from our previous breakups has fallen away. Seeing the changes, their energy falls as they become fearful about this and have no idea what to do. They start to distance themselves as they feel your fear and before you know it, another love is lost and you don’t know how it’s happened. Sound familiar?
When you’re aware of your repeated patterns in your love life and other relationships, you have taken the first step to healing your past. Really look at yourself and find the negative belief systems you are sending out to the universe, along with the fearful emotions attached to them.
Surrendering Your Heart to Receive Love
Rarely in our lifetimes do we come across other people with whom you feel an amazing energetic connection to; someone you feel you already know whom you feel completely comfortable with and trust. So, when that opportunity comes along,
and in your past you have suffered the hurts and heart scars without healing them, you will start to reject the new love for fear it will hurt you as you have been hurt before. Releasing and accepting these experiences is part of your soul contract. It can also be difficult to know if this person is a future love or an amazing connection far greater than that, a love so complete and unconditional, there is no need for physical interaction.
To look into someone’s eyes and know you have seen them before is an amazing experience. To enter into someone’s presence and feel that warmth and safety is a lovely, comforting feeling. But is this what you need, or is this what your heart desires? If it’s a needy energy then you will drain the other person’s energy and they will find it hard to be in your presence.
Being Open to Receive Love
If you have been asking for more love in your life free of fear and knowing this is what you heart desires, then you can be assured the energy will be a positive exchange and an easy interaction. If you can be honest and aware of yourself and realise that if you’re projecting out into the universe a needy energy, then now is the time to seek the help, the guidance and the insight to help you heal this before losing another Love. There are many powerful healing modalities which can help you to locate the low beliefs and fears which are blocking you from having a beautiful, harmonious relationship full of unconditional love. We all deserve unconditional love; if you have been asking for love…you can be assured the universe will bring it to you, however you must be open in your heart, mind and body to receive it with gratitude.
What Love is and What Love isn’t
Love is Kind & Caring. It knows how to adjust to the needs and desires of others without being unkind to one self.
Love is Happy For Others Success’s. It is never jealous or envious. If you feel these emotions, you can be certain you are lacking love for yourself and others.
Love is Empowering & Peaceful. It is not boastful or proud. If you find yourself boasting or acting proud; it may mean your needing to place yourself and others above all else, rather than being humble in the presence of others who are less fortunate than yourself.
Love is Considerate & Respectful. It is never selfish or rude. It not demanding of its own way and if it is, then nothing good will come from this.
Love is very Patient. If you are a person that lacks patience your behaviours are being compelled by your internal fears. A strong fear associated with impatience is a deep seeded feeling of lack love in your life.
Love is Tolerant & Accepting. It is not irritable, hold grudges or critical of others whom you perceive acted wrongfully. Neither is it happy about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.
Unconditional love means when you love someone you will be loyal to them no matter what the cost.You will always believe in them, see the best in them and stand by them no matter what.
Author
- Catherine May Smith, Soul Abundance Life Coach, Angel Intuitive & Bert McCarthy, Life Transformation Coach, Shamanic Practitioner
www.soulabundance.com
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